Ask Florie: I went to a member of my religious clergy six month ago to discuss some addiction and depression issues I am having.

Q:  I went to a member of my religious clergy six month ago to discuss some addiction and depression issues I am having. I spoke to him again this past Sunday and told him that I hadn’t made any progress. He told me that all the answers lie within our religion and I must not be utilizing them the way I should or could. He said that continuing to fast, pray, attend church, and read scriptures were the building blocks that I could rely on.  His advice was to recommit and “press forward” and we’d checkup in another 6 months.  When I left his office, I felt horrible and discouraged. My gut is telling me that I am in need of some professional help.  Would I be a good candidate for counseling?

A:  What a great question!!  Yes, I think you would be a good candidate for counseling. I have listed the reasons why I think counseling would help in my blog for the week.  Thank you for reaching out!

Ask Florie: I’m questioning my faith but am scared to discuss it with anyone. Would therapy be a good place to talk about it?

florie-color-fbQ: I’m questioning my faith but am scared to discuss it with anyone. Would therapy be a good place to talk about it? – Sue from Provo

A: Questions of ones faith can be very complicated and confusing.  In my opinion it would be helpful for you to discuss it with someone, and yes, a therapist would be a good option.  One thing to keep in mind, look for a therapist who is unbiased in their approach.  That way you can decide what you believe and don’t believe without their personal opinions being a part of it. Best wishes – Florie

Ask Florie: My boyfriend is really depressed. How do I get him to go to therapy?

florie-color-fbQ: My boyfriend is really depressed. How do I get him to go to therapy? – Lisa from Midvale

A: I’m sorry to hear about your boyfriend’s depression.  I understand it can be difficult for you and you may feel powerless to help. In my opinion, people won’t go to therapy until they are ready.  And if they do go, they are resistant to change if they’re are not there willingly.  My suggestion would be for you to enter into therapy yourself to understand how to navigate the relationship.  Best wishes – Florie